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It was Kurt Vonnegut who said, “We have to be continually jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” I like to say, “We have to be continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings ON THE WAY UP.”  

Winging It is about preparing your heart-out and putting your full self out there. Then, it’s about surrendering it all. It’s about giving your all, and then, letting it all go. It’s about working your hardest, and then leaving the rest up to the universe, to God, to the cosmos, to nature—to whatever you may believe in.

Winging It is about living your life full-out even when you don’t have all the answers, or know exactly what you are doing. It means having faith—that whatever happens after you work extremely hard—is what is suppose to happen to bring you to the next evolution of who you are.

Winging It means believing that life is always happening for you, not to you. It means having faith in a power beyond you, and trusting your next step will be revealed to you in someway.  

For me, at this point in my life, I know I don’t know it all, and I am wise enough to know I never will. However, I am 100% sure the universe is far more intelligent than I am.

As a human, I only know the basics in life—how to work hard, how to love and care for people, how to forgive myself and others, how to learn and grow, and maybe a few other things that keep me alive (like eating, drinking, and sleeping). I leave the rest up to the universe. What this means is—when something doesn’t go my way, I lean into the universe and my understanding that life is happening for me, not to me.

I first learned this from author, Michael Singer who wrote both The Untethered Soul and The Surrender Experiment, and then again from author, philanthropist, entrepreneur, and business strategist, Tony Robbins. This one phrase has supported me and pulled me through very difficult experiences in my life over and over again. I am so grateful for this!

However, this phrase wouldn’t work with me if I didn’t work hard beforehand. This is not something I go to when I haven’t worked hard or tried my best. When I haven’t worked hard or tried my best, I look directly at myself and get curious about what more I could’ve done, or been, or said.

It’s not to be used as a crutch.

Do you believe life is happening for you? For example, are you under the impression that if you give it your all, the universe has its own unique way of directing you into your next step?

I believe even when something looks messy, chaotic or unlike I planned, I know the universe is up to something that I just don’t understand yet. The universe is way more intelligent than I am. I don’t know how to make planets spin, or how the sun rises each morning. I only know the small stuff in the grand scheme of things, so I trust in the universe, I lean into the universe—even if it is not what I expected, and especially if it is not what I expected. There must be something else there I don’t see yet.

Shelly Roby